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In Asia, where I'm from, the majority of people here still relies on their parents. Even when they are in their thirties, some still live with their parents, drive their parents cars in exchange for their independent. The parents love this because it allows them to take care and protect their kids. This is understandable from the parent's perspective but what you may not realize is that by trading your independent life for comfort, you have also traded your dreams and the potential to become the person you've always wanted to be.
You may argue that you are independent, but are you really? Imagine your life without your parents and their legacy. Can you survive? Can you continue the life you are living right now? If your answer is no then you will find this post extremely useful. I have listed 3 simple ways for you to gain independent and learn how to be self-reliant.
Stop relying on your parent's legacy
If you are still relying on your parents then I fear that you may have wasted part of your life trading the potential to leave a mark of your own for a comfort that doesn't last.
The time between when you leave your parent's house and when you have kids is the only time you really have it to yourself
The quote above is very true. The more you cling on to this, the less time you will have for yourself.
How to change: You must step up and tell your parents that you have to find a place of your own and you no longer need their support. They have helped you long enough (20+ years!), and it's time for you to grow up and face the world by yourself. Get an apartment and a job, experiment with your life, learn from the failures and eventually you will find who you really are.
Question the Norm
Have you ever ask yourself why you have to work in a big organization, out of college like everyone else? Is it the security? In this economy? I doubt there are any left. You will not be truly independent if the decision you live by wasn't made by you. To give you an example, most people never thought of picking their own beliefs. They are most likely to cling on to whatever their parents beliefs are without ever exploring the choices they have. I think this is a lost opportunity since you will never have the answer to what exactly do you really believe in.
How to change: First you have to realize that there are always choices other than the one that are presented in front of you and it is not a crime to expand your choices. It is your life after all and no one can control it but you. Once you realize that, start questioning each choices and compare them to find the best one that fit you most. For example, out of college you can work in a big organization like everyone else for perks and deluded security or you can work in a startup so that you can learn all the process and eventually start your own business. Decide which one aligned better to your life goals and go for it.
Go and Travel Alone
Nothing teaches you self-reliant better than you traveling alone to other countries. If you have never done it then you have never actually experience life itself. Traveling alone helps you out of your little bubble and allows you to experience the world in its authentic way. You will learn to rely on yourself, you will become more confident and the world will be your oyster.
How to change: If you want to do it, do it now. Not next month or next year. Now. Buy a flight and leave. Otherwise, you will continue to procrastinate and the plan will never come into fruition. This happened to me in the first half of 2013. In 2012, I said to myself that I will travel the world. I procrastinated until I had enough of it and I decided to do it right away. I booked a flight on that same day to prevent me from backing out and went through it. Best decision I have ever made.
Also, to ease this process, start slow. Pick a close destination so that you will not get overwhelm by the costs and planning and start from there.
As a kid, most of us looked forward to becoming an adult, so that we can do whatever we want, whenever we want. The possibilities were endless but as we grew older, our responsibilities and commitments grew as well and we started to realize that this is not the fact. We start blaming our naivety for believing in such non sense and dismiss the idea altogether.
I have been independent and self-reliant for awhile now, and I got to say, this is the adulthood I've been looking for, and I believe that this may also be what you are looking for.
I hope you enjoy the post. If you have any suggestion, feel free to let me know in the comment below.
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